But first a warning. Knowing what to say is important, but the main ingredients of a perfect approach are others such as body language, the look (clothes), the understanding of social dynamics and the right degree of determination.
Great importance also have techniques to eliminate the anxiety of approach, namely the fear that sometimes we feel when we are about to approach a girl we like.
Finally, it is important to remember that an icebreaker is used only to exchange a few words, then we must be able to elicit a passionate conversation, to attract the woman who interests us and create the basis for her again. This too is part of my course of seduction.
But back to the phrases to use. Icebreaker How many are there? For simplicity, I have grouped into 10 types. Fun to try them all and find the right one for you.
1 - Make her a request
The most common and less interesting to start a conversation is to make one of those requests which, please, it is expected that the other person responds. "You have a light?" Or "What time is it?" Or "Do you know how to get to via Mazzini?" A problem with these social demands is that they are so common as to be boring. Moreover, it is easy to turn into conversations. To make these sentences more interesting possibility is to clarify immediately the true reason for the request, thus distinguishing itself from all other men who have never had the courage to do so. Try to ask with a smile: "Excuse me, what time is it? Yes? Thanks ... but actually I do not care: I ask only to flirt. "
2 - Go and make
At a party of friends, but also in many other social occasions, the most natural way to break the ice and go and present: "Hello, I believe I have already met. My name is Mark. "
3 - Meets an unspoken need
A woman appreciates a man who could understand her without words, to satisfy his needs and take the initiative when appropriate. But how is it possible to explain to a stranger who possess these qualities, at least in part? A few examples follow. See a cute girl sniffles? Without saying nothing and waiting for you upon request, Reach out and offer them a tissue. Another girl has a cigarette in hand and looking more and more desperately held the lighter? Come and make it turn. A woman at the supermarket is undecided on which brand of cookies to choose? Do not wait to ask some advice: it will not. Take the initiative and explain to which brand of biscuits is the best. The examples could continue. The crucial thing is that she has clearly need something and have not yet asked for help.
4 - Review the situation
Right now, what are you looking at the girl you like? Maybe you're at a cocktail buffet and there are some zucchini that appear in the last century! Or are you in a bar or have just entered the weirdos ... Comment so funny that at this moment something caught his eye and almost without realizing it you'll find yourself talking to her.
5 - Comment on his actions
At this time, what he's doing the girl you like? We continue to imagine that a drink in a bar. She has filled the plate of food to bursting, but it is not overweight and then say, "Do you really eat all that food or hide it in your bag?". Or are you in the library, she is in thought and bite their nails, then you shall say very seriously: "Sorry, looks delicious, I would try to?" Features a few seconds, so that you understand the joke, and then smile with her.
6 - Answer to a new friend
At this time, what he is telling the girl you like? Let's say you heard a conversation piece or even a single word of an interesting exchange between friends. Not too close, talk to them to respond aloud what they were talking about and commenting on how interesting or funny. Important: Please answer immediately without asking permission or apology or (what they would do to strangers, and you want to be a new friend), and is genuinely willing to leave immediately if your contribution is not appreciated.
This is one of the icebreakers more difficult and seemingly counterintuitive, but then offers more satisfaction: in hundreds of cases, has happened to me only a couple of times not to be welcome in the discussion. But be careful. To break the ice in this way, the body language is important: not to be intrusive, while talking you have to give the impression that you are about to leave.
7 - It captures your attention
What if a girl looks at you just for a few seconds? You can say with a smile: "If you keep looking you could also tell me something." Or if you are watching a particular accessory, like a hat or scarf, seize the moment and tell her: "You like? Who knows how it would be on top of you! "And let him try. But if you look from afar you can give her a nice gesture or a grimace or a greeting and observe his reaction if it is positive, you come closer and go for, or progress.
8 - Ask your opinion
Probably one of the most effective ways to break the ice, is based on approaching one or more girls seeking a "female opinion by 20 seconds." Arguments can be the most diverse, but it is better not to ask questions about your appearance or insecure to ask things that make me look bad. The efficacy is greatest when you're genuinely curious to hear your opinion. For example, when buying a gift for a friend and ask the opinion of a girl who does not know and who is there with you in the shop.
9 - Make a joke barbed
If you are a woman capable of making people laugh with you, not you, you're already on track to win it. A fact that surprises many people who come for the first time in the world of seductive communication is the use of humor sharp against a girl that we like. Many people ask me: how can a girl you enjoy being teased? In fact it is a phenomenon so counterintuitive as to be difficult to understand, even those that see it directly, but it is not difficult to explain if we remember one of the fundamental rules of communication: each message has a content in itself is a relational literal, ie an information people who communicate on and on about the relation between them. The beautiful girls are used to having "men mat" around and some of the ways to communicate more frequently imply a relationship of subordination "by the man against the beautiful woman he just met. But a princess needs a prince at his side, not a subject. A pungent humor communicates safety, playfulness and lack of interest and is appreciated by the beautiful women as long as it takes a lot away from sensitive topics such as real defects of a person or religion. On the other hand, is to avoid biting humor with beautiful women in our society obsessed by the image could have self-esteem problems and then seek confirmation of a compliment and not the "stimulation" of a joke pleasantly pungent. The biting humor should be avoided with the girls very introverted and who speak little: apart from their appearance, these girls look first and foremost a man who can put them at ease.
Let us therefore be appropriate to be in a bar and have next to a beautiful stranger who speaks animatedly with friends. The ideal topic of biting jokes is a fault or an accusation obviously fictitious. For example, she has trouble lighting a cigarette and continues to use the lighter one step away from you? You say: "Admit it. Are you trying to fire me, right? You're a famous arsonist sought by Interpol! Do not worry, your secret is safe with me. You just give me a drink ... "
10 - Express your interest
One way to break the ice man loved by direct, but not particularly effective. On the positive side of breaking the ice in this way is that, if the conversation continues, it often means that the interest is mutual. This icebreaker has also the advantage of being fast (you know right away if you're interested) and therefore be suitable for emergencies, that is, when you see a girl you like but you have very little time available. One of the phrases used is "Hello, I saw you go and I would not forgive her if I had not come to present" or "Hello, you look pretty, you're too nice or you bite me?".
Conclusion: Where can break the ice?
Everywhere! And the seduction of my classes let you learn how to do it. It must be said, however, that not everyone is interested in meeting new people anywhere. In fact, many of my more mature clients want to meet new people only within their own circle of friends, private parties or other places where "selected". Others, however, are to my own courses to learn how to break the ice in any situation.
In any case, to distinguish them from common bores, the golden rule is always to be ready to say goodbye politely and leave if the girls do not appreciate our company. Women may occasionally be rude, we never. Estimated to have of ourselves also means not accept provocations and give a little of our time only to those who can appreciate.
The good news is that there are many more women who would like to meet an interesting man than you can imagine. So no more talk and good meetings!
