My Cougar Doesn't Want to Marry Me!

Hi Lucia,

I'm 20 and my partner is 34.   Recently she said she wants to get married at some point.   She is always evasive or changes the subject when I bring up specifically her marrying me, as opposed to just generally wanting to get married. This makes me think that she is just having fun with me and doesn't plan to actually marry me at some future time. 

She has said that she won't like me a bit more for trying to act older but I'm worried she needs someone who's not a kid to her and will ultimately go for someone more her peer. 

Am I just imagining it?  Ryan

Hi Ryan,

I'm sorry but I have to chuckle because it in the past it was generally women wondering if they were being used, but obviously the tide is turning!

In a  2009 study by Cougared.com,  only 4% of Cougars said they preferred to date Cubs 20-23.  Older women know men in their early 20s are still sowing their wild oats, so they rarely consider them "marriage material".

The good news is that she is at least willing to date you - the majority of older women wouldn't even give you a chance.  She's right - acting older is not going to help because you're not being yourself.  Only a year ago you were still in your teens, so there is no way you're going to be "mature".

All you can do is treat her well and show her you're willing to grow and become the type of man that any woman would be proud to date.  The rest is up to her!

Cougar or Sugar Mama?

Hi Lucia,

What is the difference between a Cougar and a Sugar Mama?  Blake


Hi Blake,

This is a great question because many people often confuse the two.

A Sugar Mama  is a woman of any age who provides financial and material "assistance" to men, usually younger.  She may or may not be a Cougar (over 40).

On the other hand, a Cougar may also be a Sugar Mama, but not usually.  She's generally not looking to provide for the Cub but rather either for a sexual fling or a relationship with a man at least 10 years her junior.

Hope this clears things up!

Is She a Cougar?

Hi Lucia,

I'm 23 years and there is a 40ish, extremely hot lady at the gym who dresses to kill and seduce.  She does wear a ring or should I say more than one.  How can I find out if she is a Cougar?  Sean

Hi Sean,

The fact that she dresses to "kill and seduce" as you say (although, shouldn't it be the other way around), could mean one of two things:  1)  She is indeed a Cougar who is on the prowl and wants to attract as much attention as possible or 2) She's in a relationship or married and not getting enough attention, so she uses her clothes to make her feel wanted and attractive, but she has no intentions of going any further.

As usual, the only way to know if she's available is to talk to her. When people are available, they're more willing to socialize at the gym, so strike up a conversation.  

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