Sunday, March 13, 2011

What Women Want from a Man

Many men attend my classes just to learn how to attract women and really liked them.

Sure, it's easier to believe that it is to decide the fate of all, it's easier to settle for the first passable girl that makes us the wire, and is easier to stay in an unsatisfying relationship. But this is not what I wish to my friends and this is not what my customers want.

In this article we focus on what attracts women. In my courses instead put aside the seduction theory, although important to focus on the practical aspects, namely how to attract women who want.

But now back to the topic of the article: What do women want from a man? What does a woman decide to let go?

A report shorter or longer begins when a woman wants you with her whole being: mind, body and emotions.

This means that many girls would never sleep with a man who makes them feel emotionally uncomfortable, even if they were physically attracted to him. And despite the emotional and physical attraction, these same women may rationally decide to reject a man because they consider it or consider it a "penniless."

How to Approach a Cougar

Hi Lucia,

Like any other young Cub who has entered our seemingly sinful and joyful world of Cougar/Cubs, I find it hard to meet and/or approach older women.  What do I look for to see if a woman is interested in a younger man and what’s the best way to approach a woman in a public setting like that.  Biggie

Hi Biggie,

If you’d like to date a Cougar, the first thing you have to realize is that although the lifestyle may be joyful, it’s not sinful.  If that’s your perception, it will be a big turnoff, so you may want to re-think your perspective.

Approaching a Cougar is the same as approaching any woman, but it’s actually easier, because she will most likely be receptive even if she’s not interested.  Older women understand that it takes a lot for a man to risk rejection in public, so they will try to make it as painless as possible.

After looking to make sure she’s not wearing a ring, strike up a situational conversation.  This means, if you’re standing in line somewhere, ask about the event:  Have you heard if this is a good movie?  Do you know if the eggplant sandwich is good?   Do not start with a compliment, because there’s not much she can say to that except, “Thank you”. 

If she seems receptive to talking with you, ask for her number, saying you’d like to get to know her better.  If she’s interested and available, she’ll give it to you but if she’s not, she’ll have a good excuse.

For more information, check out my new recording:  www.howtocatchacougar.net

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Is this Cougar Interested?

Hi Lucia,

I'm 21 years old and recently I thought I was being hit on by an older woman. We talked for a while and she seemed to really enjoy our conversation. She was the one who initiated the conversation, and after a while I assumed she was interested in me. I did get the old "That is so funny!" while she reached out and touched my arm.

A friend of hers came over and made a comment about her talking to me, and she ended up saying something to the effect of "Are you kidding me? No way! He’s a baby!!"  I’m 21 and was absolutely puzzled.

I have no idea how to read an older woman and now my likeliness to approach one has gone WAY down. Is there any way to not embarrass myself in the future? How does a male tell if an older woman is interested without the "I’m old enough to be your mother." answer?  Evan Hall


Hi Evan,

The fact that she touched you is a good sign.  If a woman isn’t interested in a man, she doesn’t want to touch him.

I think what happened is that she thought her friend might not approve, so she pretended to not be interested.  You can’t underestimate a woman’s need to protect her reputation.  The other possibility is that she enjoyed the attention and flirting, but genuinely wasn’t interested.

Don’t give up just because you were shot down once.  Most older women feel a 21 year old is too young, so when you first meet a woman, if she asks your age, say something like:  I’m old enough to know you’re someone I’d like to get to know.  Once you’ve shown her that you are a mature, young man, you can reveal your age.

Friday, March 4, 2011

My Cougar Disappeared


Dear Lucia,

About three months ago I began dating an older woman who happens to be 35 years old.  I am 25.  We've been on a couple of dates since then and have been getting on just great, but in the past month I have not heard from her at all. 

I'm guessing it might just be my insecurities, but I feel that I may have been given the flick!  I've tried getting in contact with via email and by phone but alas to no avail. I've really fallen for this woman.  Ossie

Dear Ossie,

I’m glad you wrote to me, because it proves that older women are not always the ones who are chasing younger men.  More often than not, it’s the other way around!

I don’t have enough information to make an educated guess as to what may have happened.  However, I do know that continuing to try to get in touch with her is just going to make matters worse.

You need to leave her alone.  If she wants to get back in touch, she will. If you really were getting along great, at some point, she will pop up again.

Sunday, February 13, 2011

Rules for a Successful Date

A combination of positive experiences that is stored up as memories. A student's mindset can be adjusted by both seeing demonstrations in a boot camp, private mentoring session, real-life naturals and by experiencing this first hand.

Dating is a necessary part of finding the perfect
match for you. Its a selection process, that
needs to be followed with some type of an idea of
how to handle yourself.

The easiest way to meet women is to be
approachable and make new friends. This way you
will meet more people and some of them might have
female friends they will set you up with. You
will be exposed to new places and activities,
which might lead to meeting women.

There are guys that know how to date, guys that
haven't dated in years, or others that has never
been successful with women. Whatever the case,
they all should follow some common rules for to
have a successful date.

Finally you have a date with the beautiful girl
you look after for some good time and she never
seen you before. But, the miracle happened and
you have the chance to meet her and impress her
at a date. So, to not fail in you date watch out
these important dating rules.

1. Try to look your best and be punctual on dates.
Get your hygiene and stiling sorted out. Most
women prefer smartly dressed guys. Not over the
top, at the height of fashion, but cleanly turned
out in suitable clothes. So your appearance can
be vital.

Never be late for a date unless you have a very
good reason. Women don't like to be kept waiting
even less for a man .

2. Sort out your job if is one you are proud of
and get your knowledge levels up. Most women love
a guy to show that he can be in charge. So you
should have every little detail taken care of and
organized. It shows that you are capable, and
attentive, qualities much sought after in a
potential mate.

3. Pay attention to her. Be interested , stop
talking and start listening. You are on a date
with her to get to know each other, use that time
effectively, to find out as much about each other
as possible. Give her your undivided attention.
Ask about her, show interest in her. Everyone
loves to talk about themselves, her included.
Allow her to talk, and then listen. This is one
of the greatest compliments you can give another
person. Also you should watch the details,
nothing shows better that you are a sensitive,
caring man that try all to make her feel
comfortable on date.

4. Flatter and compliment your date on the way
she look and how she is dressed. She made a lot
of effort for to look wonderful on your date. So,
it's good for her to hear that she looks good and
is beautiful.

5. Have fun when dating to create a happy
atmosphere so your partner to not get bored. It
is very important that she feel good so maybe you
will get a second date.

6. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy
and manners will get you everywhere.

7. Never date a married person because she would
not leave her husband for you and you will be for
her just a shoulder to cry on. This types of
date are based only on lies.

8. Be confident. Confidence can open many doors
for you. When you are confident she will have
more trust in you and your abilities.

The most importing thing at all on date is to be
your self. Thats because after the date there
will be ordinary days to come and it have never
paid to play someone youre not on the date. The
best thing to do is to show the other person
right from the beginning what kind of man you are
or it will never work.

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Tips on How to Break the Ice

But first a warning. Knowing what to say is important, but the main ingredients of a perfect approach are others such as body language, the look (clothes), the understanding of social dynamics and the right degree of determination.

Great importance also have techniques to eliminate the anxiety of approach, namely the fear that sometimes we feel when we are about to approach a girl we like.

Finally, it is important to remember that an icebreaker is used only to exchange a few words, then we must be able to elicit a passionate conversation, to attract the woman who interests us and create the basis for her again. This too is part of my course of seduction.

But back to the phrases to use. Icebreaker How many are there? For simplicity, I have grouped into 10 types. Fun to try them all and find the right one for you.

1 - Make her a request
The most common and less interesting to start a conversation is to make one of those requests which, please, it is expected that the other person responds. "You have a light?" Or "What time is it?" Or "Do you know how to get to via Mazzini?" A problem with these social demands is that they are so common as to be boring. Moreover, it is easy to turn into conversations. To make these sentences more interesting possibility is to clarify immediately the true reason for the request, thus distinguishing itself from all other men who have never had the courage to do so. Try to ask with a smile: "Excuse me, what time is it? Yes? Thanks ... but actually I do not care: I ask only to flirt. "

2 - Go and make
At a party of friends, but also in many other social occasions, the most natural way to break the ice and go and present: "Hello, I believe I have already met. My name is Mark. "

3 - Meets an unspoken need
A woman appreciates a man who could understand her without words, to satisfy his needs and take the initiative when appropriate. But how is it possible to explain to a stranger who possess these qualities, at least in part? A few examples follow. See a cute girl sniffles? Without saying nothing and waiting for you upon request, Reach out and offer them a tissue. Another girl has a cigarette in hand and looking more and more desperately held the lighter? Come and make it turn. A woman at the supermarket is undecided on which brand of cookies to choose? Do not wait to ask some advice: it will not. Take the initiative and explain to which brand of biscuits is the best. The examples could continue. The crucial thing is that she has clearly need something and have not yet asked for help.

4 - Review the situation
Right now, what are you looking at the girl you like? Maybe you're at a cocktail buffet and there are some zucchini that appear in the last century! Or are you in a bar or have just entered the weirdos ... Comment so funny that at this moment something caught his eye and almost without realizing it you'll find yourself talking to her.

5 - Comment on his actions
At this time, what he's doing the girl you like? We continue to imagine that a drink in a bar. She has filled the plate of food to bursting, but it is not overweight and then say, "Do you really eat all that food or hide it in your bag?". Or are you in the library, she is in thought and bite their nails, then you shall say very seriously: "Sorry, looks delicious, I would try to?" Features a few seconds, so that you understand the joke, and then smile with her.

6 - Answer to a new friend
At this time, what he is telling the girl you like? Let's say you heard a conversation piece or even a single word of an interesting exchange between friends. Not too close, talk to them to respond aloud what they were talking about and commenting on how interesting or funny. Important: Please answer immediately without asking permission or apology or (what they would do to strangers, and you want to be a new friend), and is genuinely willing to leave immediately if your contribution is not appreciated.
This is one of the icebreakers more difficult and seemingly counterintuitive, but then offers more satisfaction: in hundreds of cases, has happened to me only a couple of times not to be welcome in the discussion. But be careful. To break the ice in this way, the body language is important: not to be intrusive, while talking you have to give the impression that you are about to leave.

7 - It captures your attention
What if a girl looks at you just for a few seconds? You can say with a smile: "If you keep looking you could also tell me something." Or if you are watching a particular accessory, like a hat or scarf, seize the moment and tell her: "You like? Who knows how it would be on top of you! "And let him try. But if you look from afar you can give her a nice gesture or a grimace or a greeting and observe his reaction if it is positive, you come closer and go for, or progress.

8 - Ask your opinion
Probably one of the most effective ways to break the ice, is based on approaching one or more girls seeking a "female opinion by 20 seconds." Arguments can be the most diverse, but it is better not to ask questions about your appearance or insecure to ask things that make me look bad. The efficacy is greatest when you're genuinely curious to hear your opinion. For example, when buying a gift for a friend and ask the opinion of a girl who does not know and who is there with you in the shop.

9 - Make a joke barbed
If you are a woman capable of making people laugh with you, not you, you're already on track to win it. A fact that surprises many people who come for the first time in the world of seductive communication is the use of humor sharp against a girl that we like. Many people ask me: how can a girl you enjoy being teased? In fact it is a phenomenon so counterintuitive as to be difficult to understand, even those that see it directly, but it is not difficult to explain if we remember one of the fundamental rules of communication: each message has a content in itself is a relational literal, ie an information people who communicate on and on about the relation between them. The beautiful girls are used to having "men mat" around and some of the ways to communicate more frequently imply a relationship of subordination "by the man against the beautiful woman he just met. But a princess needs a prince at his side, not a subject. A pungent humor communicates safety, playfulness and lack of interest and is appreciated by the beautiful women as long as it takes a lot away from sensitive topics such as real defects of a person or religion. On the other hand, is to avoid biting humor with beautiful women in our society obsessed by the image could have self-esteem problems and then seek confirmation of a compliment and not the "stimulation" of a joke pleasantly pungent. The biting humor should be avoided with the girls very introverted and who speak little: apart from their appearance, these girls look first and foremost a man who can put them at ease.

Let us therefore be appropriate to be in a bar and have next to a beautiful stranger who speaks animatedly with friends. The ideal topic of biting jokes is a fault or an accusation obviously fictitious. For example, she has trouble lighting a cigarette and continues to use the lighter one step away from you? You say: "Admit it. Are you trying to fire me, right? You're a famous arsonist sought by Interpol! Do not worry, your secret is safe with me. You just give me a drink ... "

10 - Express your interest
One way to break the ice man loved by direct, but not particularly effective. On the positive side of breaking the ice in this way is that, if the conversation continues, it often means that the interest is mutual. This icebreaker has also the advantage of being fast (you know right away if you're interested) and therefore be suitable for emergencies, that is, when you see a girl you like but you have very little time available. One of the phrases used is "Hello, I saw you go and I would not forgive her if I had not come to present" or "Hello, you look pretty, you're too nice or you bite me?".

Conclusion: Where can break the ice?
Everywhere! And the seduction of my classes let you learn how to do it. It must be said, however, that not everyone is interested in meeting new people anywhere. In fact, many of my more mature clients want to meet new people only within their own circle of friends, private parties or other places where "selected". Others, however, are to my own courses to learn how to break the ice in any situation.

In any case, to distinguish them from common bores, the golden rule is always to be ready to say goodbye politely and leave if the girls do not appreciate our company. Women may occasionally be rude, we never. Estimated to have of ourselves also means not accept provocations and give a little of our time only to those who can appreciate.

The good news is that there are many more women who would like to meet an interesting man than you can imagine. So no more talk and good meetings!

Monday, December 27, 2010

Dating is Seniors Activities

With regards to seniors dating the dates concerned are relaxed and calm, more outings out as friends than dates . Visits to parks and flower gardens are very popular for seniors dating simply taking a leisurely stroll round, no pressure, perfect. Sauntering alongside the seafront in a picturesque seaside city is one other outing that seniors dating can relate too.

Theater shows are a great trip for seniors dating , as many theaters these days supply meals as a part of the package. This makes a lovely day or evening out for a date, a very good show, delicious meal and wonderful company. Seniors dating is centered on companionship the feeling of any individual being with you by your side, having fun with your group as a lot as you get pleasure from theirs. It is about speaking to one another about days passed by, appreciating each other.

Taking a trip by train is a lovely approach to enjoy your dating, watching the whole lovely surroundings you pass by. In case you are slightly frightened by the concept of seniors dating then why not try and prepare a day out for a crowd of people? This manner you possibly can nonetheless be with the person you would like but too with the company of others. You both may be pleased about this. Then when you realize that you are not that properly suited to one another on your seniors dating trip then other people can be available to speak too.

Visiting an artwork gallery would be good for seniors dating . Of course you want to confirm first that you just each take pleasure in art .Incase you do then it is a pretty thought for a first date. Seniors dating is all about taking it easy and having fun with the company that you are in .

How about couple of boat trips ? These need not be too physical as there are lots of touring boats out there to take a cruise on, however seniors dating doesn't all must be reserved. If you're the energetic kind and your date is too then rent a sailing boat or jump in a canoe.

Rent few bicycles in your seniors dating and ride someplace on a flat area. Many areas now offer specifically tailored cycle pathways working alongside pretty riverbanks and fields. Seniors dating is about tranquility yes, but that doesn't mean you cannot be a bit daring.

Visiting a flea market or a jumble sale are fabulous locations to go while you might be seniors dating .You can discuss all the items you have bought. Simply since you are seniors does not imply that you simply can not have fun anymore .Visit a fairground or a circus or go to a foolish video games . Seniors dating will be full of laughter and joy .

If you're both into reading , your seniors dating might embrace attending a book reading collectively after which stand in the queue for a signed copy.

An enjoyable date for seniors dating is a wine tasting session or a cheese and wine evening. This can be a good date to go on with a group and the ideal alternative to be with your date. Have fun if you end up seniors dating it isn't all about taking it easy and slowly, just enjoy it.


About the Author
The Author is the owner of this Seniors Activities website . You can see a lot of information in his website http://www.the-seniorsactivities.com/