Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Do I Really Need To Dress Up To Attract Women?

It never ceases to amaze me looking at how poorly some guys dress when they go out to a club, bar or just the mall. All these places are opportunities to meet women and yet I see guys appearing like dorks or flat out unkempt and dirty. Looking like a bum will earn you no points with women in the "looks" department.

If you are one of these guys that has been wearing the same old stained t-shirt for the past five years or thinks wearing a sports jersey to a club is high fashion then take the time to reevaluate your wardrobe and donate all your old clothing and purchase new cloths. There is nothing wrong in experimenting with a new look. Start off with one item and slowly work your way in adopting more articles of clothing that will be your new wardrobe.

When I moved from New York City to Southern California I neither wore board shorts nor sandals. After some time I began to experiment with a pair and I felt okay wearing, after all I live near a beach community so it makes perfect sense. However, I drop that attire when I hit the club and I'll put on a button down shirt with a nice pair of jeans and shoes.

Consider what I'm about to say one of life's mysteries there is no explaining it just simply accept it. Pay in particular attention the shoes you wear. Women will look at a man and the first thing she will notice is what kind of shoes he's wearing. You should have a minimum of four pairs, two pairs of dress shoes in black and brown and two pairs of casual shoes, again in brown and black.

Also it doesn't hurt to buy a nice bottle of cologne. My personal favorites are from Jean Paul Gaultier and Bulgari for men. Throw away that bottle of old spice and kick it up a notch with a new scent but don't over do it with the cologne. Nothing is more disgusting than someone that has sprayed half a bottle on their body.

Some common sense tips as far as hygiene is concerned bath every day with soap and water. I recommend lathering up twice and clean your body thoroughly Brush your teeth and use mouth wash for those of you with yellow or stained teeth try using those over the counter teeth whiteners. Shave everyday or make sure your facial hair is neatly trimmed and well groomed. Believe me this will go a long way women are not attracted to guys that don't take care of themselves.

Lets be honest do you have the same hair cut since you were 15? Visit a salon and get some advise from a stylist they are experts in knowing what hair cut is most appropriate for your face. Change your look and you may notice more women opening up to you. Don't be afraid of change, it's healthy mentally and who knows you may like it.

By no means do I suggest that expensive cloths will get the girl on the contrary women will look at a man's personality and masculinity above all else. What I do argue is that looking clean and presentable will open you up to more women.

Don't overdo the personal care here, I mean don't become a "meterosexual" and book an appointment for a manicure, pluck your eyebrows and start reading Cosmo. Deep down confident men are comfortable with their looks no matter what however they also take care of themselves. There is nothing wrong with a man looking his best, having a nice hair cut, wearing nice cloths and smelling good. The point here is not to over do it and keep it normal.

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Finding True Love In Cyberspace

We have all heard the saying "True love is hard to find". Is this true or false? It is false! Assuming that you have an internet connection.

Finding love can be as easy as a click of a mouse, with the advent of online dating sites that have proliferated the internet in recent times. The promise of finding your would-be partner in life just by logging on to a certain site is too good to be true, right? Yet many will prove that one can really find love through the internet. Some are even having a blessed married life right now.

Today there are many sites that offer online dating services. You must decide which of these dating sites you think is right for you. For starters, it is best to choose a site that has a huge userbase. One should note that the more members a site has, the more chances you'll find a perfect match for you. One of the best things about most of these sites is that their searches are area based. You can look for your ideal partner within the country and city that you live. Once you have found the right person you can set up a date whenever the both of you decide you would like to meet in person.

Similar to blind dating, you will have the ability to remain anonymous to the other person until you give them more information. Your privacy is in tact. So it is good for those who are hesitant to go on a regular date and just want to test the waters first. Some of these sites also offer their clients with the user compatibility test—you can easily choose a match based on your qualities and traits. You don't have to go through all that embarrassment of a disappointing date because you will know beforehand whether or not you are well-matched for your date.

Surprisingly, more and more people are into online dating. They even have their testimonies posted on site just to prove that in the course of dating online, you can achieve favorable results. We have all heard about the couples speaking about their success stories on TV explaining how they met each other on the internet?

The benefits are endless. You don't waste time chasing a love that never was and save money from veering away from unsatisfactory dates—all this while choosing the best possible match for you. The best part is that you can do this right at the comfort of your home. With a few clicks of the mouse you will be on your way to finding true love.

The world of dating—online or otherwise—is a fun and exciting experience. It is a privilege for single persons and a fond memory for couples. The young people are thrilled about it while the old ones only wish they could relive their romance back in the day. In dating, there are no guarantees, only the hope that when cupid fires his arrow away, the two of you will be struck together.



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GET YOUR BOYFRIEND BACK- TOP TIPS!

EIGHT STEPS TO GET YOUR EX BACK

THE MAGIC OF MAKING UP!

Remember why it is you broke up in the first place. Do you really want him back ? Do you want him back because you think that you can't have him? Was the relationship abusive, controlling, mean, or possessive? If any of these things happened, you'll might want to seriously reconsider getting back to that kind of relationship.

Be the person he fell in love with. He was attracted to you because he was comfortable with you, and you were fulfilling his emotional needs. What changed? Correct any bad habits and mistakes that you might have made. Be positive around him. Be happy and carefree! Use the past to your advantage. If he ever complimented your outfit, wear it again. Or, share a light-hearted memory with him.

Carefully listen to his choice of words. When ever he uses an unusual or uncommon word, casually slip it into the conversation again. This subconsciously lets him know the two of you are similar because of the exclusive and similar ways of talking.

Invite him to do something non-committal, like have a drink with friends, go to a movie, go bowling, etc. The type of things that friends and first dates both can do. But first; remember, keep it fun and upbeat! Forget the serious talks for now. You'll have plenty of time to talk seriously later. That can be very threatening to a lot of guys. If he initiates it, go ahead and follow his lead. But don't take it too far.

Let him know you have been thinking about him. Recall the time that the two of you went to dinner at that great new restaurant and had a terrific time? **Leave him a short email telling him you ate there recently and thought of him.(ex) And, by the way, how are doing? This is a non-threatening way to have a light conversation, and a small request for a reply back.

Invite him to talk to you. Express regrets about things that weren't working out between you and ask if you can talk now that you have some perspective. Ask him what he felt went wrong.Was it related to what you've been working on? Your ex may have a different perspective!

Pay attention to your appearance if you have been neglecting yourself during this troubling time.

ALSO: Be yourself. Do not act like someone else in order to be liked - it never works in the long run. Don't destroy him. Don't hit on your ex's enemies. Don't hit on his best friend. It hurts your ex's feelings, but some people use it as revenge. Be subtle before you try anything obvious, you need to pick up his signals first. You don't want to look desperate. Tell him you still love him. Be honest with him and yourself. Let him know you want this to work.



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Relationship Issue: Why Is Your Ex Still On Your Speed Dial?

It was a major hurdle to overcome but you did it. You rightly feel good about it even proud. You tell your family and friends and they congratulate you although behind your back they don't believe it.

You've convince yourself however and that's the most important thing. Yupper, it was tough but you are completely over your ex. Way to go. And then you go out after a day at the job with some co workers. You seem to be enjoying yourself until the topic of food comes up. Everyone at the table starts chiming in about their favorite dish and recipes. You chime in that your ex used to make the best upside down cake that contained a special ingredient that really gave it a zesty flavor. You cannot recall what it was and so right then and there you pull out the old cell phone and call them.

Even people at the table not familiar with your relationship history stare at you funny. It would not be so bad except that you don't hang up right away. You and your ex start talking and reliving some of the dating relationship; the good and the bad. Now an uncomfortable vibe has settled over the table. People suddenly start remembering previous engagements and leave like the place is on fire. Before you know it, you are sitting at the table alone still having a not so pleasant back and forth with your ex.

When a relationship is good, it can make you feel like you are flying in the clouds. You get so close to each other physically and emotionally that everything they do seems to have a powerful effect on you. After awhile it's almost like you can read each other's thoughts.

Unfortunately when the relationship crashes it can have the same powerful effect. It seems like a part of you has been taking away. You feel lost a little disoriented and somewhat empty. Where do you go to experience that flying in the clouds state of euphoria again?

Many people have no idea what comes next so to paraphrase the Beatles they keep trying to "get back to where they once belonged." They can't let it go even though they have tried to convince themselves repeatedly they have moved on.

The fact of the matter is the relationship is over. Your ex has let it be known that there is no possibility of the two of you getting back together so do yourself a favor and accept it. Holding out hope is only robbing you of meeting someone new that believe it or not you may click with better than your ex.

That's a tough concept for some people to grasp. They are under some misguided notion that a love like they had with their ex only comes along once in a lifetime. Wrong. That kind of thinking only applies to mushy romantic songs which babble on about lost loves that will never be.

So take you ex off your speed dial. Stop going to some of those old haunts in the hopes of running into them again. Don't keep asking mutual friends have they seen your former significant other and how are they doing. That time has passed. Enjoy the memories (not too much) be thankful for what you had and get on with the rest of your life.



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How to Avoid the Major Potential Dangers and Scams in Online Dating?

Popular thought is that everyone on the internet is dishonest or dangerous. However, the vast majority of them aren't. But you still have to keep your eyes open and be aware that the nice person that you've been chatting with might not be who they say they are. There are a few simple things that you can do in order to avoid dangerous situations. But the most powerful weapon you have is your gut instinct.

While some types of danger can be emotional, another type is physical danger. If you ever feel physically intimidated by someone, leave the situation immediately. You should never have to fear for your safety while on a date.

Tip 1: Meet your date in a public place, in an area that you feel comfortable in

Be sure you do this. After exchanging e-mails and talking on the phone, you might feel like you know your date pretty well, but you haven't interacted with them in person.

Even if you have received sweet e-mails from them you should be aware of how they conduct themselves. If you get any bad feelings, be cautious. Feeling jittery or anxious on the first date might just be nerves, but it could also mean something more. Set your dates in public places before you feel comfortable enough to go somewhere more intimate with them. Don't rush things and don't let your partner pressure you into rushing things either.

Tip 2: Google your date

Once you have your potential match's name you might want to type it into a search engine and see what comes up. You can find information that matches what they're telling you for example if they say that they work for a real estate agency and you find the agency website with his picture and information on it, you know that they are telling the truth. If you type in your date's name you might discover that they are not who they say they are or you can even find out if they are a felon or a sex offender. As scary as this sounds, it only takes a minute and if this is the case, you'll be glad that you did.

Tip 3: Remember that your date might not be telling the truth

When meeting someone online you have to recognize that all you know about them is questions that they filled in on a survey and what they tell you. Everyone wants to present themselves in the best light, so sometimes there is a little bit of exaggeration in their profiles. For example, if someone is currently unemployed they might enter their job as something that they want to do instead of something that they are currently doing.

While you can make your profile as honest as possible, it doesn't mean that your date has done the same. But sometimes honesty is not even the issue. It can also be the information that they withhold. Someone could write that they enjoy having a drink with their friends and omit that they don't stop after one drink.

Tip 4: Look for inconsistencies

Keep in mind the things that they have listed on their profile and if you start picking out too many inconsistencies, be wary. Also note if there are any behaviors that they didn't list on their profile. Being rude to a waiter shouldn't be a deal breaker, but if you notice that the rude behavior extends to people, note that this could be their regular behavior.

Tip 5: Communicate with your partner clearly

If you assume that the you and your object of affection are mutually exclusive, then you could be in for a rude awakening if you should find out that they are still seeing other people. It's also easy to get over involved with someone and only find out later that they're not as enraptured as you are.

More pitfalls include not being clear about what each person wants out of the relationship. Without communication, you may find that one person wants to date casually while the other wants a long term relationship. Some of these factors can change over time, but you're in danger of being hurt if you assume one thing or another.

Tip 6: Recognize when you're being taken advantage of

After building up your trust in a controlled setting, such as e-mails and text messages, it can be all too easy to think that there is nothing wrong with behaviors that soon become exhausting.

This can happen on many levels. You can suddenly find yourself paying for expensive dates, presents, and other incidentals that your partner wants. While it's great to provide your date with nice things and treat them for special events and birthdays, there comes a point where your partner becomes too expensive for you to keep up with. If your partner knows that you don't have a lot of money to spend on going out to eat, but still insist on doing it, this is a clear sign that they want to drain cash that you don't even have.

Tip 7: Don't give in to pressure

You can also find yourself being pressured into doing things that you don't want to do. As cliché as it sounds, if you are really enamored with your partner and want to please them they can take advantage of this and ignore your needs and comfort for their own satisfaction.

Make sure that your relationship is mutual. Put your foot down if there is something that you will not do for your partner. If you find that there are too many things that you disagree on then you both might be better off with a different partner. Try to compromise, but don't let yourself be a doormat.

Tip 8: Try to be objective

It's tempting to ignore the things you don't like about someone and focus on the things that you do. But if there is a particular part of their personality that you don't like, you have to remember that it's very difficult for people to change the behaviors that they've had their entire life.

Tip 9: Don't be paranoid

While there are dishonest people looking for someone to take advantage of, there are ten times as many honest people who are looking for someone special. Trust your instincts. A little caution goes a long way but don't become suspicious of everyone that you meet.



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Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Where Can I Read Dirty Talk?

Wanting to talk dirty is an excellent way of increasing your relationship, the closeness and intimacy that you and your boyfriend feel together.

But if you have trouble thinking what to say and need a bit of help, reading some dirty text will always help kick start your thinking, if not actually hand to you on a plate the things to say.

Easy peasy you may say - but where can I read dirty talk?

Actually, you can either read or it hear it, the choice is yours.

What do I mean? well, think about it, there are two great sources available to you that you can use whenever you want to that will show you exactly what to say.

Source number 1 is print - books, websites online, magazines etc.

For example, try searching on Google for 'stories about sex' and you'll find there are 12,000,000 results. Checking out the first site was a loser as it was a broken link but the second site in the list - bingo, jackpot. Over 5,000 stories submitted by ordinary people like you and me. Subjects headings tat covered over 20 different categories of subject and even an option to hear audio stories!

Simply scroll down the list of categories and pick your fave topic. Why not go for daring and pick a category you've never really had much contact with a try something new at the same time.

If you don't have easy access to a computer, nip down to your local bookstore and look for the adult section. You'll usually find it on a top shelf somewhere but it will have a good selection of subjects. Buy one of these, whichever grabs your fancy and have a read. You'll have ideas bursting out of your head within minutes.

If you fancy combining pleasure for your boyfriend, look to buy a porn mag. Not only can you use reading out the Readers Letters to each other as an introduction to talking dirty, you can also enjoy the pictures together as well. (My girlfriend and I always end up having a chuckle looking at the pictures, trying to work out what is artists airbrushing and what isn't!)

A second source for getting access to dirty talk is by watching an adult film. Now you will have to use your powers of discretion as to what dialogue you use from the film as 80% will be faked moans and groans but you should find quite a few snippets that sound good and invigorating enough to use yourself.

Again, you could combine using this method with your partner, seeing what affects him and gives him pleasure to learn what things to aim for.



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How to Kiss a Girl

How to Kiss a Girl in 5 Easy Steps

The Kiss. For many women this is the ultimate test if they REALLY want to have a deeper, more intimate encounter with the man that is doing the kissing. For a woman, the kiss will rank around 8 out of 10 on the Zing!! scale. With this in mind, knowing when, as well as how to kiss girl is one of the important elements you will want to master.

Step 1: Establish a rapport. This doesn't need to be difficult. Here are a few things that you could open with: dogs, cats, her home, her job, her favorite activity. By starting with focusing on her areas of interest you show her that your interest is wrapped up in her. This helps to make her feel more relaxed, more "into" you. Then begin to share some of your interests as the conversation evolves. The ability to share is very important to a woman.

Step 2: Eye contact: While talking make sure to have good eye contact with her. Look at her eyes, occasionally going to her hair or lips. NEVER stare at her breasts or her pubic area at this point. NEVER stare at the floor. Both will make her feel like an object and turn her off almost automatically.

Step 3: Touch. As you're talking and getting to know each other, begin to touch her. Start very casually. Touch her shoulder, arm or wrist. For example: when going to be seated touch her elbow to lead her to her seat. Women adore being treated with gentlemanly manners. As you progress in the conversation, stroke her arm and glide to her hand. Holding hands is very sexy to a woman. If she is open to this, then try to kiss her hand or stroke her face.

Step 4: Relax: At this point, if you've followed through with these steps, you will be able to see if she is receptive to you and ready to kiss. She will be looking at your eyes, your lips. Her face will be a little flush. If you see this, she's ready and waiting.

Step 5: The Kiss: Slowly lean over to her, almost to her lips, then wait for one to two seconds. Give her a gentle brush of a kiss. Then go back for a second kiss directly afterward, with a little more intensity but remaining gentle. At this point you will know if she wants to continue with kissing by her reaction to you.

If you want, you can stop at this point and build her anticipation for the next round, or you can continue to build in fervor, just do it slowly. She'll be sure to let you know exactly how far she wants you to go.

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