Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore have been all over the news lately because of Ashton's rumored infidelity. Though a split was considered inevitable, Demi was recently spotted on the red carpet still wearing her wedding ring. Trouble in Cougar Paradise?
It's not an uncommon problem for Cougars...if you want to keep a 'Cub', you should know the possible pitfalls. Here are some 'musts to avoid' that can help both you and Demi when dealing with a younger man:
That “know-it-all” attitude: Just because you’re older, doesn’t mean you know everything. He’ll know a few things you might not. You’ll come across as condescending, and that’s never an attractive quality. Don’t give him advice unless he asks for it, otherwise you will become his mother instead of his lover.
The “Sugar Mama” trap: Just because you may make or have more money than him, it doesn’t mean you always have to pay. He’s still a man, and men instinctually want to provide – it makes them feel good, it makes them feel like men. Don’t make the finances your sole responsibility, otherwise, you’re setting yourself up to be used.
Underestimating your Cub: Just because he’s younger, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t know what time it is. Younger guys these days are often very savvy – sexually and otherwise. Stay away from anything referring to your age or his age, such as: When I was younger; When I was your age, You’re too young to know this. He knows there’s an age difference, there’s no need to keep reminding him.
Younger women are NOT your competition: He’s with you because of your age, not despite your age. You have many things to offer which women his age don’t: knowledge, wisdom, life experience and no drama. Acting younger to attract or keep a younger man is a turn off. He expects you to be more mature and sophisticated. If he wanted to be with someone younger, he would be.
Ignore those scornful stares: Even though most of society is still against older women dating much younger men, it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It means Cubs find you attractive and interesting – and that’s certainly nothing to be ashamed of. Men have been dating much younger women for years. It’s time we got rid of the double standard!
