How Can I Stop Arguing With My Girlfriend?

Any relationship between a man and a woman will involve arguing. It cannot be avoided. If the arguing becomes more and more frequent then you may find yourself asking the question "how can I stop arguing with my girlfriend?" Listed are some helpful tips that can help put a solution in perspective for you.

1. Stop and examine what your arguments are about. Once you really examined what your arguments are about then you can work through the issues more rationally without arguing.

2. Perform an honest self-assessment and identify major stresses in YOUR life; not your girlfriends. Often times we carry around our own stressors. We may not always recognize this and suddenly (or not so suddenly) the people around us begin to annoy us more and more because we are looking for a way to vent our own stress. This if often taken out on our partners.

3. Don't take YOUR stress out on your girlfriend. Once you've identified the stressors in your life make every attempt not to let them affect how you treat your girlfriend. Think it through. How does it make her feel when you act that way towards her? If you care enough about her you won't want to make her feel bad - so vent you frustrations somewhere else.

4. Learn to deal with your stress. You must find another avenue to deal with the stress in your life. You can't stop arguing with your girlfriend if she is always the target for your release. Exercise, get a hobby, watch a movie. Do something other than argue with your girlfriend when you feel the stress building up.

5. Keep lines of communication open with your girlfriend. Try talking to your girlfriend about the stressors in your life. Once this is brought out in the open she may even be able to help you deal with what's bothering you. Her level of understanding will increase regarding your behavior and this can only help your relationship grow.

6. Consider what is bothering you - will it still bother you tomorrow? This means that if the thing that is bothering you is trivial and only "in the moment" chances are it won't be bothering you tomorrow and it's not worth arguing about. Let it go.

7. Can you identify a pattern of behavior (in you or your girlfriend) that leads to arguing? This means that if the thing that is bothering you is recurrent, whether it's something within you or your girlfriend then it likely needs to be addressed. If it keeps happening it won't go away by itself. Deal with it together before it escalates. Often times these issues are not brought to the forefront just so an argument can be avoided but in the end an argument is inevitable.

Most arguments can be avoided if you just take the time to review the problem at hand with some rational thought. Not always easy but if you keep these 7 tips in mind you will be successful and reduce the number of arguments that you have with your girlfriend.

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Peter Harris is a health care professional and author and writes frequently about relationships.