Many are the times i have been in a dating dilemma since i started being in relationships. Things seem to get better or worse every day so it is hard to settle without a dilemma. Not until things remain at a stand still in dating. Do you see such a day? Every person in the dating scene has one dilemma or another. It is unavoidable to be confused about one issue or another. I had to make decisions every day until i am tired. How i wish i can get an advocate to handle all my decisions. But anyway dating would be boring without competition, variety to choose from and what to do and what to leave. We can only deal with it if we hope for any fun in dating.
How many news papers have columns for dating dilemmas? Almost all the papers i know about. Those columns are overflowing with questions from troubled souls. Most of the times the answers are with us but we are hoping we are wrong. A dilemma comes in when you want to keep your cake and eat it. This is not possible. I once read from a dating dilemma column in a news paper about a certain lady. The lady was in love with a married man. She knew it was wrong but she claimed to have been fallen head over heels in love with him. She also had two other boyfriends whom she did not love as much but were good enough to offer all that is admirable in a relationship. One was financially challenged but a good guy. The other one was financially fit but had no marks when it came to treating women. They all wanted to marry her but she had to get married to only one man. Is this a dilemma or confusion.
The replies to her dating dilemma were so funny i laughed all through my reading. I guess i spotted only one genuine advice. The others were either jokes or insults. Others confused her the more by telling her to leave all of them and look for a fresh partner. General knowledge dictates that the answer was with her only that she was blinded by love. I know she was dying to hear someone tell her that she should stick by the one she loves. Sometimes love is not enough. A married man should not even be a subject to a dating dilemma. Rational thinking dictates that she should have stuck with the good guy who treats her the way she wanted to be treated. There are always ways and means to look for money. The other one who was single but fails in treating women well should not have even been mentioned.
Her dating dilemma was simple only that dating is a field which is very sensitive. Emotions come into play affecting our level of reasoning. Don't you think we can easily put dating dilemma at bay? Yes we can by thinking with our minds and not our hearts. Sometimes the heart is not so smart, it goes where it should not go. Always remain rational.
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