Where Can I Find A Cougar?

Hi Lucia,

I'm a personal trainer in Los Angeles and I've found myself more attracted to much older women because they seem to know what they want and have little or no shame in being who they want to be.  I could go on for days as to why older women are just so much more appealing but I'll spare you.

My problem is that I'm a young, handsome man in very good shape but I am finding it hard to meet older women. How do I go about finding older women that are into young men?  I have no clue what places to go to or even what sites to join. I prefer being able to look someone in the eye and talk with them but I'll take what I can get.  Rick

Hi Rick,

Hmm, let’s see.  A young, handsome, in shape guy in Los Angeles can’t find an older woman?  Somehow, I find that hard to believe, especially since most Cougars work out, so they are right in front of you – at the gym!

You can also try book stores, hotel bars, upscale restaurants and museums.  In terms of sites, I would recommend joining the free community at www.urbancougar.com, where there is also a list of Cougar Dens, as well as a link to the dating site www.thecougarconnection.com

My Cougar Won't Return My Calls

Hi Lucia,

About three months ago I began dating an older woman who happens to be 39 years old.  I am 27.  We've been on a couple of dates since then and have been getting on just great, but in the past month I have not heard from her at all. 

I'm guessing it might just be my insecurities, but I feel that I may have been given the flick!  I've tried getting in contact with via email and by phone but alas to no avail. I've really fallen for this woman.  Ossie

Dear Ossie,

I’m glad you wrote to me, because it proves that older women are not always the ones who are chasing younger men.  More often than not, it’s the other way around!

I don’t have enough information to make an educated guess as to what may have happened.  However, I do know that continuing to try to get in touch with her is just going to make matters worse.

You need to leave her alone.  If she wants to get back in touch, she will. If you really were getting along great, at some point, she will pop up again.

In the meantime, if you find that you prefer dating older women, I suggest you join the community at Urbancougar.com or a Cougar dating site such as The Cougar Connection.

Bitten by the "Cougar Bug"

Hi Lucia,

I met a flight attendant last year.  We only spent an evening together, but she left a lasting impression on me.  I am 21 and she was fifteen years older.  Since then I have not been able to get over the difference between her and the other women I have dated.  I have decided to only date older women from now on, at least for a while. I've just had it with those silly college girls. My question: where do I start?  The oldest women in my circle of friends are maybe three to six years older than me. I want to meet more in their thirties and forties.  Martin

Hi Martin,

You've been bitten by the "Cougar bug"!  You may think you'll be able to do it "for a while" but you will probably find it difficult to go back to women your age or younger.

Urbancougar.com offers 3 ways to meet Cougars.   Check out the Cougar Den section, to see where the older women in your city are hanging out.  You can also sign up for the free community, which has members all over the world.  Finally, sign up on Cougar dating site The Cougar Connection.