My Cougar Never Calls

Dear Lucia,

I am dating a 37 year old woman who I feel is leading me on... she always text messages me but never calls.  It seems as though if I don’t call her, she won’t stay interested.  How can I find out what she wants from me...I want something serious!  I don’t know how I should be to get her!! I am 29 and have always dated older women.  Louis

Dear Louis,

Ah yes, text messages - a double-edged sword.  They’re great for a quick communication when you can’t talk and a great way to avoid someone if you don’t want to talk

What does she want from you?  What every woman wants from a man – confidence and a bit of a challenge.  This is how you “should be”.  She probably senses your over-eagerness and lack of confidence.  These are never attractive qualities in either men or women. 

Since she is in her late 30’s, I’m assuming she is more traditional and wants to let the man do the pursuing.  She’s willing to show interest with the texts, but expects you to be the man and do the calling.   So continue pursuing her.  If she responds favorably and wants to see you, she’s interested.  If not, she’s not!  It’s that simple!