THE MAGIC OF MAKING UP!
Remember why it is you broke up in the first place. Do you really want him back ? Do you want him back because you think that you can't have him? Was the relationship abusive, controlling, mean, or possessive? If any of these things happened, you'll might want to seriously reconsider getting back to that kind of relationship.
Be the person he fell in love with. He was attracted to you because he was comfortable with you, and you were fulfilling his emotional needs. What changed? Correct any bad habits and mistakes that you might have made. Be positive around him. Be happy and carefree! Use the past to your advantage. If he ever complimented your outfit, wear it again. Or, share a light-hearted memory with him.
Carefully listen to his choice of words. When ever he uses an unusual or uncommon word, casually slip it into the conversation again. This subconsciously lets him know the two of you are similar because of the exclusive and similar ways of talking.
Invite him to do something non-committal, like have a drink with friends, go to a movie, go bowling, etc. The type of things that friends and first dates both can do. But first; remember, keep it fun and upbeat! Forget the serious talks for now. You'll have plenty of time to talk seriously later. That can be very threatening to a lot of guys. If he initiates it, go ahead and follow his lead. But don't take it too far.
Let him know you have been thinking about him. Recall the time that the two of you went to dinner at that great new restaurant and had a terrific time? **Leave him a short email telling him you ate there recently and thought of him.(ex) And, by the way, how are doing? This is a non-threatening way to have a light conversation, and a small request for a reply back.
Invite him to talk to you. Express regrets about things that weren't working out between you and ask if you can talk now that you have some perspective. Ask him what he felt went wrong.Was it related to what you've been working on? Your ex may have a different perspective!
Pay attention to your appearance if you have been neglecting yourself during this troubling time.
ALSO: Be yourself. Do not act like someone else in order to be liked - it never works in the long run. Don't destroy him. Don't hit on your ex's enemies. Don't hit on his best friend. It hurts your ex's feelings, but some people use it as revenge. Be subtle before you try anything obvious, you need to pick up his signals first. You don't want to look desperate. Tell him you still love him. Be honest with him and yourself. Let him know you want this to work.
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