Before I became a pick up artist I was a typical AFC with no seduction skills whatsoever. Despite having a good social circle, and plenty of female friends, I was always single, and never had any dates.
A few months into my pick up artist journey started going out more in London and approaching more girls and getting more numbers, and my skill in approaching and number closing definitely improved, however the numbers rarely materialised into dates and I still wasn't getting laid.
I had a consultation with a top London pick up artist who told me that the reason was probably due to the fact that my interactions involved running through a linear pattern in my head: approach, hook, number close. He told me that I needed to pay attention to the crucial aspects of seduction: Kino escalation, speaking slowly and with pauses, and maintaining eye contact etc.
He advised me to start going into sets with no agenda about getting a number or a date, but to purely focus on these seductive characteristics. I concentrated on maintaining eye contact, and would hold it until the girl broke off first. I spoke slowly and started to put pauses in my sentences, which I found gave me the unexpected bonus of not being so nervous about what I was going to say next. I started to actually use kino, which was something I'd read a lot about, but never really tried to use as I was often waiting for the right time to use it. My teacher told me that it was always the right time! Women are much more responsive to touch than men, and when kino is used correctly it can create intense attraction from a cold approach.
My results changed dramatically and quickly. I found that women had much more interest in what I had to say, and could stay in set for much longer. And a lot of the time when touching a girl, they would start touching me back. I learned the important lesson that just approaching and number closing alone was not enough, and that without implementing the crucial elements of seduction, I would always be in the friend zone.
If you feel that you've mastered your approach anxiety, and you have no problem talking to girls but still aren't getting the results you want, start implementing the basic rules of seduction, and you may well notice a dramatic improvement in your game. Work at lowering your tone of voice, and if it's something you're insecure about, visit a voice coach. Start to Leave. Pauses. Whilst. Maintaining. Eye. Contact. This will serve the purpose of giving you higher value and greater control in the interaction. Nervous people tend to come into sets with an overbearing high energy, an inability to hold eye contact, and a tendency to lean closely into people whilst speaking fast, most of which is born from an insecurity that the set would rather be listening to someone else. A successful pick up artist will project none of these insecure attributes, and it will show. Lastly, start using kino, and perhaps try to gesture more with your hands when you speak to give yourself an excuse to touch her.
These changes might sound too simple to be really effective. I was tempted to doubt the impact that they would have on my attempt to seduce women. However, it's far better do something simple, such as maintain eye contact and kino, and do it well, than struggle with something elaborate and complicated such as stringing together a complex list of openers, routines and negs. It surprised me how easy it became to sexually escalate once I had mastered the basics of seduction, and I realised that I didn't need to memorize a linear aspect of pick up, and could be free to be the natuaral pick up artist I wanted to be within that structure.
Jamie Meeka is a key player in the Bristol pick up community. Once unsuccessful with women, Jamie discovered the pick up community and decided that he wanted to dedicate his life to seducing women, and is now rated as one of the premier pick up artists in the UK.
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